Hey Jen, Absolutely love you but wondering could you help. On a recent night out I really embarrassed a friend due to alcohol so much so he’s done with me and hates me. I’ve completely ruined our friendship which I can’t bare as I’ve had feelings for years (which he acknowledges) Idk what to do, help!
Ah, the wonder of booze. What it gives in false confidence it takes away in caution and the ability to think ahead. I’ve been there, I feel your pain. It all really depends on what exactly happened, and how close you’ve been with this friend. Each friendship has its own dynamic and nuances, so it’s hard to tell exactly how it will pan out overall. You won’t be able to control or influence his reaction, so all you can do really is take responsibility for how you acted, and resolve never to get to that point with the booze again. Look, we’ve all done (and said) cringey mortifying things while under the influence, so don’t be too hard on yourself. I’m sure your friend has had a few of those nights himself, and when he cools down he might remember that…
If you haven’t already, I would suggest apologising to him, in person if possible. Keep it short and to the point. Just own what you did, let him know how much you value the friendship, say sorry and then leave it with him. You can do no more than that. Dust yourself off, forgive yourself, and move on. I can’t say whether he’ll come around, but at least you’ll have maintained your own integrity. People fuck up; that’s human nature. It’s how you come back from a mistake that shows what you’re made of. This was just a blip in your life. You’re not the sum of your mistakes, so just chalk it down to experience and reset your alcohol limit for future reference!
I hope your friend comes around and forgives you, but if he doesn’t, don’t force the issue with him. That will only torment you more and dig a deeper hole. Who knows? Time is a great healer, especially when it comes to embarrassing drunken antics! TRUST ME… 🙂
Best of luck, fingers crossed!